Part of my morning included me telling my husband about an article I had read about whether gluten-free Cheerios are safe or not to eat for people with Celiac disease. He immediately said, “I don’t buy it.” This meant he didn’t believe what the article was claiming. (He fully supports me living a gluten-free lifestyle as I’m sure he can attest to me being less cranky.) I was shocked and immediately felt offended. Jumping to the defense (because we know that this article is like the gluten-free Bible – sarcasm intended), I started building my argument and quickly realized this was going into argument territory. I went back into the kitchen and started loading my breakfast dishes into the dishwasher, still highly annoyed and offended. He came in and said, “This is just my opinion, why are you so upset?” Okay, I really didn’t have an answer, so I had to ponder.
Here’s what I’ve determined – I get offended when my husband doesn’t share the same opinion as me on something I am passionate about. It drives me crazy because I want us to see eye-to-eye on what we are both passionate about and it seems to rarely happen. Not only do I become offended, but I assume his “offensive” opinion means he isn’t supporting me. Normally, our varying opinions have nothing to do with life and death matters and we are surprisingly on the same page when it comes to the important stuff, like disciplining our sassy child who prays for snow year-round even though we live in Michigan.
Other People’s Differing Opinions Offend Me Too
I realize that I do this with other people too. I assume that someone else’s differing opinion means it’s time to quietly bow out from discussing said topic. Yup, this seems even crazier now that I’m writing it and not at all what God has intended through His diverse creation. I believe having differing opinions can be a blessing, but you have to allow free flowing communication and refrain from just getting completely offended and assuming the other person is attacking you. My question is this: How do you deal with differing opinions with those in your household, especially when it’s your spouse?
I’m ready to gain some Christian perspective and see if others find themselves in this opinionated dilemma. Help me!