I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that God doesn’t call me to do everything. Nope, He calls me to do very little actually, compared to everything that He does. I grew up with the performance mentality that demands as a wife and mother I’m a gourmet cook and baker, my house is in perfect order, all the grocery shopping is completed in family outings or everything we eat is grown in a garden and our meat is raised on a farm, our decorations create a warm and inviting feel and are made in my crafting area that is always organized. Performance mode dictates that I run a business that meets every writing, editing, social media and strategy need of every client and work at all hours without time for myself. Oh and it doesn’t end there! As a friend, my performance mentality states that I need to make a meal every single time someone is sick, has a baby or is enduring a lot of stress. I’m also expected to visit everyone in the hospital, volunteer at every program at church and make it to every single Bible study. This is just a short list because what I’m expected to do should just continues to grow, right? Performance mode is, at it’s best (and worst), demanding I do all of these things so I look like an acceptable Christian. I seriously lived in this mentality for far too long and it was living a “Christian” life without Christ. Sure, making a meal for someone who is sick is absolutely a nice thing to do, but God may not actually be calling me to do the cooking. I have learned that I cannot live out God’s will by living in expectations and basing my faith and salvation on my performance. You want to know a secret? God loves me because He created me and He didn’t call me to be all of the things above. NOPE!
Discovering God’s Calling
So, what did God call me to do? God created my desires and passions and understands them far better than I do. I’m passionate about running, writing and cooking, besides being a wife and mother. There are other things too at different seasons of life, but these are the main ones! God called me to write and it has not been easy or fun every single moment, but I know deep down that He can work through me in a way that is unique to the talents that He has blessed me with. Writing is on my priority list, but not everything from the list above can be if God is leading me to be a writer, wife, mother and friend. Most importantly, God is calling me to follow where He leads. Sometimes this means making a meal or focusing on a house project or spending time making a card. This doesn’t mean I need to make a five-course gourmet meal, repaint and rearrange my entire house or spend three hours perfecting a card. It’s not really about what I do – it’s about what’s in my heart while I’m doing these things that matters the most. This comes out in the attitude I have while checking things off my to-do list. It means I become intentional about my time and don’t let myself worry about what other people will think. God wants my heart aligned with Him.
Yes, It’s Biblical
Romans 12:3-8 “3 For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. 4 For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, 5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. 6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; 7 if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; 8 the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.”
The scripture above states that God calls people to do different things and this applies at all levels. We are all part of the body of Christ, but no one person is the entire body of Christ. I think about the many moms I know and how different we all are. Some are crafty and easily create birthday parties and cute after nap activities for their kids while they are stay at home moms. Others were born with a talent to cook anything and their kids eat every single bite. Still other moms have an incredible ability to balance home life and work life and they are thriving. Knowing what I’m not called to do is just as important as following God’s calling.
Living This Out
I absolutely love helping others, but I often struggle finding the time to add extra to-do’s on my list. I realized that it’s really challenging to help out in certain ways when you have a child to take care of and entertain while running errands. Living out God’s calling means I can’t volunteer to physically be everywhere, but I can use the talents of writing to bring to light what other Christians are doing. I can guide churches and ministries in how to effectively communicate their missions and updates through various communications. I can run races to raise money for different causes. Living this out also means I’m letting go of the expectations I often put on myself while embracing how God is guiding me using what He has already blessed me with.