Reading the book “Breaking Busy: How to Find Peace and Purpose In A World of Crazy” by Alli Worthington is one of the best ways you can kick start the new you in 2016. You have a few weeks to figure out what this means to you before the book releases January 26th. Order it now and then keep reading about how this book has changed my life (yeah, this seems cliche, but it’s the truth).
How do you respond when someone asks “how you are?” For a long time I replied, “Good. Busy.” Really? Why in the world did I need to remind people that I was busy? People who know me know life is busy and I realized that reminding people of how busy I was killed the conversation every single time. Saying you are busy has become an empty answer and I feel like it became an excuse to not do the things that brought life and enjoyment to myself and those around me.
A few months ago God began leading me through the current season I am in – a season of just being. It started with feeling exhausted freelancing full time and I craved being surrounded by coworkers in an encouraging environment. He opened the door to the current marketing job I have and absolutely love. This has allowed me to quit the late night freelance schedule and be present with my family in the evenings. I’ve cut back on the number of things I “have” to do which means I can focus on doing a few things really well. I’ve realized that the fewer things I have to manage in my schedule means the less I have to rush from thing to thing to thing. Rushing kills my enjoyment. In September we learned that I’m expecting again and we are so excited since we have been praying about another child for a year. The pregnancy quickly took it’s toll and I could not stay up late and I was forced to rest often. I feel slightly better than I did the first trimester, but I still struggle with migraines – especially if I’m stressed or lacking rest. This season of just being has lead to figuring out how to break busy.
What’s Your Capacity?
Alli uses the analogy of limits of a cell phone to show that we all have capacity limits. Alli states, “As much as I love my phone, as much as I need what it can do, as awful as feel when I’m without it, I never ask my phone for more than it can give me. We have some great boundaries in our relationship, my phone and I. I know exactly how much that phone has to offer. It has a limited capacity , and I respect that.”
It’s easy for me to see capacity and limits with things – not filling my gas tank means running out of gas, not charging my phone will mean the battery will die, not buying more milk means we will run out. It’s harder for me to identify my own capacity and limits, but I admire and respect people who know their limits and set boundaries to ensure they stay within their limits. What happens when I go over my capacity? I’m an emotional mess, physically exhausted and mentally empty. I have learned many of my limits with being pregnant and am learning what situations and people exhaust me the most so I can set the proper boundaries.
Read A Sample Chapter
You will want to buy this book, but Alli has released the chapter Traditions: Finding Your Groove in a World of Expectations for you to download for free so you can try it out. I highly recommend reading it, but I’m warning you that you will devour it like you did Gilmore Girls and Parenthood. Order your copy to keep your sanity during the holidays – you’re welcome!